When things don’t turn out the way we desire a very common expression is to say “it wasn’t meant to be” and, I admit, in the past this phrase used to freely roll off my tongue like the slippery little lie that it is. Yet, what are we actually saying when we utter these words?
I see this statement as a way of pretending that you are less than you are and that you don’t have the ability to create what you truly desire. It’s an excuse to sink into a state of lack of awareness and diminish your greatness.
Here’s the thing – you are an infinite being, therefore:
- If you desire it, then have it.
- If you desire to do it, then do it.
- If you desire to be it, then be it.
YOU create the possibilities for yourself, not the universe or god or some other being. To think otherwise is to give away your power.
Instead of saying “it wasn’t meant to be” ask yourself if you truly wanted it in the first place.
If not, then acknowledge that. Be honest and admit that you chose not to create that right now. Stop lying to yourself and pretending that something else is directing your life and that you have no say. (You’re an infinite being remember!)
If you did truly want something and it did not turn out the way you desired then shift from victimhood (it wasn’t meant to be) to empowerment (I’m having this! I don’t know how yet, but I’m having it). Then start asking questions – What else is possible? How can I change this? What awareness can I have about this? What would it take for me to have this?
In Access Consciousness we call this “Being in the Question”. You are inviting the universe to respond to your request and you will find that new awarenesses and possibilities start to show up.
Asking questions does not mean that you must then seek answers. This will get you caught up in the mind and will limit your possibilities. Stay in the energy of the question.
Another aspect of the statement “it wasn’t meant to be” is when we desire something but are not willing to step beyond our comfort zones to get it. It’s an easy excuse to say “it wasn’t meant to be” and then give up because change seems too daunting.
Every time you hear yourself say “it wasn’t meant to be” stop and consider the lie you just told yourself and tune in to your actual truth.
- Did you really want it?
- Did it just appear different than you expected?
- Were you unwilling to step beyond your comfort zone in order to have it?
The more you catch yourself saying “it wasn’t meant to be” the more you can choose to eliminate this victim statement from your vocabulary and become more aware and empowered in your daily life.
Keryn Lee is an Access Bars Facilitator, Theta Healing Practitioner, Tarot Reader and Empowerment Teacher. Visit her website for more information about her sessions and classes www.kerynlee.com.au or contact her on 0408 857 620 or firstname.lastname@example.org
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