When we have experienced pain and suffering, when we think we have failed or not been good enough and when we continue to see the wrongness of our lives we keep ourselves immersed in past events and circumstances and our futures are created from these past realities. So we end up with more pain, suffering and wrongness.
We have learned to righteously hold on to stories like: my father beat me as a child, my mother didn’t want me, I am/was an alcoholic, we were very poor, I was bullied at school, I witnessed something I’ve had to keep secret all my life, and so on, and we allow these stories to define who we are now.
We carry our wounds and battle scars like badges of honour, sometimes silently and sometimes sharing our suffering with others. We may seek attention or sympathy, we may be addicted to the drama or we may quietly punish ourselves by perpetuating the cycle and refusing to choose something different.
If we look back truthfully we can often see something that was gained from these experiences. The problem occurs when we make the story significant which makes it solid and real and the more we revisit it the more stuck we get.
Where your attention goes, energy flows, so if you hold on to an experience of abuse you stay in victim mode and therefore attract more abuse.
What would it be like if you never entertained your past stories again? What if a friend was telling you her about her boyfriend treating her badly and you DIDN’T share your horrible boyfriend story? What if you could just be there for her in that moment and not make any of it significant?
What if you feel bad about something you did in the past and instead of torturing yourself with the sense of wrongness or guilt you carry daily you could simply drop the story and set yourself free?
What difference will letting go of your past stories make? You get to create anew each and every moment of the day! How does it get any better than that?
How do you go about this? Well, it all comes down to choice. It’s about choosing to be present with you and your body right now. If you find your mind trying to link back to the past just Stop! and bring your awareness back to your body in this now moment. Expand your energy out in all directions as you become aware of the Infinite Being that you are. Take a deep breath and instead of entertaining the past, make a new choice: I choose life. I choose freedom. I choose ease and joy. I choose ease with relationships. Choosing something different every time your mind wanders back to the past can create phenomenal change if you allow it.
Here’s an exercise you can do: expand your energy out in all directions and become aware of you the Infinite Being, and imagine your stories of the past as solid, perhaps like blocks of concrete, stuck to your body and as you expand and choose, watch these blocks begin to dissipate and fade into nothingness. Keep going and literally feel the energies of the past leaving the cellular memory of your body. This doesn’t mean you will forget the past; it will just begin to lose its charge and become less significant.
And then, you get to create from an energy, space and consciousness of infinite possibilities.
Keryn Lee is an Intuitive Consultant, Theta Healing Practitioner, Access Bars Facilitator, and Empowerment Teacher. Visit her website for more information about her sessions and classes www.kerynlee.com.au or contact her on 0408 857 620 or firstname.lastname@example.org